Women, after marriage, adapt themselves to a changed environment & most of the women live an artificial life – suppressing their natural interests.
This, to certain extent, becomes necessary for the harmony of the family, especially if it is a joint family.
Women get into a myth of “sacrificing” for the sake of family & children.
Though the life pattern demands most of her time to be spent for the sake of husband & children, they fail to live at least few hours totally for themselves.
During the initial period of marriage, they get more attention from husband; once the kids arrive, they occupy their mind and work most of the time.
As the kids grow, the gradually wean away from the mother, which is but natural.
When a woman is in her early 40s
1.Harmonal changes start ;Pre-menopausal period sets in.
2.That is the period when the husband in his mid forties, is very busy with his career & wants to achieve more & more-this reduces his quality time with his wife – not that his love for her is reduced; but he doesn’t give verbal expression for it. – it is not intentional.
3.Children are grown up now and do not cling to mother; but they start being close to their friends. Again this is natural; to be accepted. Not that they don’t love their mother; but don’t express.
All these put together, women start feeling :
1. “I am taken for granted”
2. “no one cares for me”
3. “I spent all my life for husband & children; but didn’t get anything in return”
4. “I am neglected” etc. etc.
Either she cribs or bottles up; at times bursts.
These outbursts makes husband irritated as he can not understand why she behaves like this.
Children get irritated and start talking back or arguing.
This becomes a vicious cycle and the woman gets pushed into depression.
She creates a self pity that she is unwanted.
Our minds have a great control on our body.
These negative thoughts & depressions affect all her secretions & results in various health problems.
Treating for one health problem leads to other problems as side effects.
I can go on elaborating on this !
A simple request for
Women : Please live just for yourselves at least for a couple of hours daily, doing what you like. Do not give up any art that you learnt; continue practicing.
Men : Pl. try to understand her; every woman needs love expressed in words & actions. Support her in every way you can, spend some time with her; take her out; give her small holiday breaks. Watch your children & see that they also pay attention to her.
Taken care of like this till, say, 50 (or reaches her menopause and some time post menopause), she will live a happy life & be a strong binding force for the family.
This, to certain extent, becomes necessary for the harmony of the family, especially if it is a joint family.
Women get into a myth of “sacrificing” for the sake of family & children.
Though the life pattern demands most of her time to be spent for the sake of husband & children, they fail to live at least few hours totally for themselves.
During the initial period of marriage, they get more attention from husband; once the kids arrive, they occupy their mind and work most of the time.
As the kids grow, the gradually wean away from the mother, which is but natural.
When a woman is in her early 40s
1.Harmonal changes start ;Pre-menopausal period sets in.
2.That is the period when the husband in his mid forties, is very busy with his career & wants to achieve more & more-this reduces his quality time with his wife – not that his love for her is reduced; but he doesn’t give verbal expression for it. – it is not intentional.
3.Children are grown up now and do not cling to mother; but they start being close to their friends. Again this is natural; to be accepted. Not that they don’t love their mother; but don’t express.
All these put together, women start feeling :
1. “I am taken for granted”
2. “no one cares for me”
3. “I spent all my life for husband & children; but didn’t get anything in return”
4. “I am neglected” etc. etc.
Either she cribs or bottles up; at times bursts.
These outbursts makes husband irritated as he can not understand why she behaves like this.
Children get irritated and start talking back or arguing.
This becomes a vicious cycle and the woman gets pushed into depression.
She creates a self pity that she is unwanted.
Our minds have a great control on our body.
These negative thoughts & depressions affect all her secretions & results in various health problems.
Treating for one health problem leads to other problems as side effects.
I can go on elaborating on this !
A simple request for
Women : Please live just for yourselves at least for a couple of hours daily, doing what you like. Do not give up any art that you learnt; continue practicing.
Men : Pl. try to understand her; every woman needs love expressed in words & actions. Support her in every way you can, spend some time with her; take her out; give her small holiday breaks. Watch your children & see that they also pay attention to her.
Taken care of like this till, say, 50 (or reaches her menopause and some time post menopause), she will live a happy life & be a strong binding force for the family.
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