Women..........

Women, after marriage, adapt themselves to a changed environment & most of the women live an artificial life – suppressing their natural interests.

This, to certain extent, becomes necessary for the harmony of the family, especially if it is a joint family.

Women get into a myth of “sacrificing” for the sake of family & children.

Though the life pattern demands most of her time to be spent for the sake of husband & children, they fail to live at least few hours totally for themselves.

During the initial period of marriage, they get more attention from husband; once the kids arrive, they occupy their mind and work most of the time.

As the kids grow, they gradually wean away from the mother, which is but natural.

When a woman is in her early 40s

1.   Harmonal changes start ;Pre-menopausal period sets in.

2.   That is the period when the husband in his mid forties, is very busy with his career & wants to achieve more & more-this reduces his quality time with his wife – not that his love for her is reduced; but he doesn’t give verbal expression for it. – it is not intentional.

3.   Children are grown up now and do not cling to mother; but they start being close to their friends. Again this is natural; to be accepted. Not that they don’t love their mother; but don’t express.

All these put together, women start feeling :

1.   “I am taken for granted”

2.   “no one cares for me”

3.   “I spent all my life for husband & children; but didn’t get anything in return”

4.   “I am neglected” etc. etc.

Either she cribs or bottles up; at times bursts.

These outbursts makes husband irritated as he can not understand why she behaves like this.

Children get irritated and start talking back or arguing.

This becomes a vicious cycle and the woman gets pushed into depression.

She creates a self pity that she is unwanted.

Our minds have a great control on our body.

These negative thoughts & depressions affect all her secretions & results in various health problems.

Treating for one health problem leads to other problems as side effects.

I can go on elaborating on this !

A simple request for

Women : Please live just for yourselves  for a couple of hours daily, doing what you like. Do not give up any art that you learnt; continue practicing.

Men : Pl. try to understand her; every woman needs love expressed in words & actions. Support her in every way you can, spend some time with her; take her out; give her small holiday breaks. Watch your children & see that they also pay attention to her.

Taken care of like this till, say, 50 (or reaches her menopause and some time post menopause), she will live a happy life & be a strong binding force for the family.